இவ்வளவு தானா?

This is for all judgemental people who leave the victim (can be a friend/family/relative/anyone)  when she/he is going through some bad phase in her/his life.

I literally felt this when some of my real closed ones left me when I was going through a bad phase in my life. Though I immediately went and told the same closed ones what exactly was the issue, what happened and why it has been happening for so many years yet I hid it within myself just to protect the dignity of the person (abuser) who was causing me all troubles. (Oh Yes, I was/am kind to the abuser as well. Unlucky me! )

They listened but none made me feel better in anyways and was not supportive and was not even trying to listen afterwards as they all felt am not the victim here even after me being opening up everything to them. In fact of all the people I had I went and shared with THEM. ONLY THEM.I felt they would understand me instead they all JUDGED ME. I felt very dejected and devastated (Even now sometimes as they were so closed ones whom I thought would come forever in my life journey). Though I had many support system through other BEST UNDERSTANDABLE FRIENDS of mine and started recovering and became a new me.  Yes, I am here standing strong and brave because of them yet I couldn’t take it to heart sometimes the judgemental trait shown by my then so-called closed ones.

Sorry for the lengthy post of mine though I am always hesitant in speaking up that too mainly personal but this one I couldn’t stop myself from typing this as this is my little journal where I register my emotions. So let it be! 😀 

Anyhow, Lesson Learnt to move forward :

• NEVER JUDGE ANYONE.

• IF SOMEONE IS GOING THROUGH A BAD PHASE AND THEY CHOSE TO SHARE TO YOU OF ALL OTHER PEOPLE, THEN LISTEN TO THEM.

• DO NOT MAKE THEM FEEL BAD INSTEAD COMFORT THEM. TALK TO THEM. BECAUSE DEPRESSION KILLS, SUPPORT THEM. MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT.

• MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER. BE KIND. SHOW LOVE.

• IT’S OKAY IF YOU DONT LIKE TO SUPPORT BUT MAKE SURE YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH INSTEAD OF BADMOUTHING THE VICTIM.

• Life is Once. Spread Kindness which is of no cost. 

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